Self-Acceptance is the Ultimate Simplicity

I’ve come to realize that when I am in a place of self-acceptance, I am naturally simplified. For years so many of my actions and choices were motivated by a feeling that I need to be more or do more—that somehow I, or my life, was not enough. On the surface this may seem like a good thing. After all, much of my writing and the personal development movement are about striving to be more of who you are—your “best self.” And while I am still a proponent of evolution of consciousness (which I believe happens despite our efforts and in its own time), I’ve discovered a more compassionate, peaceful and enjoyable way to live is to come from a place that all is well. I am well, my life is well and I do not need to fix, strive, be, or create anything other than who, where, and what I am in this moment.

When we live from a place of self-acceptance and we are at peace with ourselves, we also feel our inner-state and our outer-environment is enough—our lives become very simple, simply. Whether our goals are material or spiritual, we are not striving for “more.” We are content with “enough.” Interestingly, sometimes by accepting and doing nothing (surrendering) and feeling gratitude, “more” occurs without effort.

To truly simplify our homes and lives we can engage in an inner process: self-acceptance. A simple way to live is accepting and experiencing each moment—not trying to do more or change anything, but rather appreciating and being.

Ask yourself, “What can I be that I already am?”

Choose to celebrate what you already are.

Cultivate gratitude for your life as it is.

Show up with no agenda, but rather in service. Allow life to move through you.

Let go and trust that all is unfolding for your happiness. Self- acceptance=letting go. Allow yourself to be surprised by life by not defining and controlling. And yes– as much as I love setting intentions—let go of “intending.” Why limit ourselves to our imagination (i.e. goals, plans, ideas) when Life may have things in mind that we could not have dreamed as our present selves or from our current circumstances? In other words, if we keep on task, always focused on our goals, then we may be limited to manifesting what we can envision now. Instead be open to greater possibilities—to the things we can’t see or imagine because they are so extraordinary they’re beyond our present knowing.

Be in the moment. Use the energy spent bettering, fixing, looking back or scheming forward to live in the moment with love and kindness. Not everything needs to be understood and fixed. We may wholeheartedly accept and enjoy.

Claim happiness now.

You may also enjoy:
The Art of Everyday Living
How I Made Meditation a Habit After Trying for Eighteen Years
My Simple Daily Spiritual Practices

4 thoughts on “Self-Acceptance is the Ultimate Simplicity”
  1. Dear Laura,

    Thanks for this clarifying description of ‘simplicity.’ So many people assume it is only about material frugality when, as you say so beautifully, the ultimate simplicity is self-acceptance!


    Duane Elgin

  2. It is a lovely piece, L&A, and is mostly good advice. Your spirit is definitely in the right place. I wonder, though, if ending a list of suggestions for living one’s life (an agenda? simple, yes, but still an agenda) with the statement, “Show up with no agenda, but rather in service. Allow life to move through you.” isn’t a little contradictory.

    Even that statement is a contradiction. Show up with NO agenda. But do this, do that.

    This is a common error that many people make, and it confuse people. Minimalist writers such as Leo Babuta passionate extoll the idea of living life with no goals, and then give folks lists of goals that they should strive for, including the goal of having no goals.

    As a coach who works with folks who are trying to simplify, I’ve seen the confusion that can arise from this kind of “don’t do anything, except what I say you should do” advice.

    Again, your piece is quite wonderful and you’re right, IMO, that self-acceptance is a big part of simplicity. But I don’t think it’s all of it.

    Keep up the good work, and, please, take my comments in the spirt of dialogue, OK?

    1. Thank you for your thoughts Bruce. It is a paradox. I think it is similar to trying to explain non-duality. The minute you try to speak or write about it you will engage in dualistic thinking and contradict yourself. My hope is that the post provides an inspiration or opening or feeling for this experience of being present, living from a place of self acceptance, and letting life shape itself. The post could have ended without the list. And I could have mentioned that I still plan to write about goals and intentions. I do not see these ways of living as an either/ or– I think most anything and everything has a place at different times on our paths. I also believe this new found state of being– that for me is still fleeting– is worth trying to capture and share as it feels so truthful and peaceful and in my experience, does simplify.

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