Self-Acceptance is the Ultimate Simplicity
I’ve come to realize that when I am in a place of self-acceptance, I am naturally simplified. For years so many of my actions and choices were motivated by a feeling that I need to be more or do more—that somehow I, or my life, was not enough. On the surface this may seem like a good thing. After all, much of my writing and the personal development movement are about striving to be more of who you are—your “best self.” And while I am still a proponent of evolution of consciousness (which I believe happens despite our efforts and in its own time), I’ve discovered a more compassionate, peaceful and enjoyable way to live is to come from a place that all is well. I am well, my life is well and I do not need to fix, strive, be, or create anything other than who, where, and what I am in this moment.
When we live from a place of self-acceptance and we are at peace with ourselves, we also feel our inner-state and our outer-environment is enough—our lives become very simple, simply. Whether our goals are material or spiritual, we are not striving for “more.” We are content with “enough.” Interestingly, sometimes by accepting and doing nothing (surrendering) and feeling gratitude, “more” occurs without effort.
To truly simplify our homes and lives we can engage in an inner process: self-acceptance. A simple way to live is accepting and experiencing each moment—not trying to do more or change anything, but rather appreciating and being.
Ask yourself, “What can I be that I already am?”
Choose to celebrate what you already are.
Cultivate gratitude for your life as it is.
Show up with no agenda, but rather in service. Allow life to move through you.
Let go and trust that all is unfolding for your happiness. Self- acceptance=letting go. Allow yourself to be surprised by life by not defining and controlling. And yes– as much as I love setting intentions—let go of “intending.” Why limit ourselves to our imagination (i.e. goals, plans, ideas) when Life may have things in mind that we could not have dreamed as our present selves or from our current circumstances? In other words, if we keep on task, always focused on our goals, then we may be limited to manifesting what we can envision now. Instead be open to greater possibilities—to the things we can’t see or imagine because they are so extraordinary they’re beyond our present knowing.
Be in the moment. Use the energy spent bettering, fixing, looking back or scheming forward to live in the moment with love and kindness. Not everything needs to be understood and fixed. We may wholeheartedly accept and enjoy.
Claim happiness now.